It is a given when you run into someone that you have not seen in a while. You start by saying Hello, and make small talk, then before you know it you've been hit. Hit by the question.
"Do you have kids?"
or
"Any kids yet?"
Each and every time I get asked that question I have a very hard time answering it. My usual answer is...
"No, but it's not that we do not want any."
Most of the time people will be satisfied with my answer, and maybe, just maybe that will be enough for them to understand our situation, at least a little bit so that we can get off that subject. I ask myself why is it so hard for me to answer that question, and why do I want to take off running for my life when I hear those words??!!
I used to get angry at people when they would present me with that question. Then I would vaguely remember myself asking some "old friends" that same question, which was of course before we were TTC. Since then, I never ask people that question, because I have no idea if they are going through the same situation and I know how hard that question is for me to answer. Now instead of getting angry, I think of the blessing we are waiting on, I think of that day when I can say, "Yes, we have been blessed with a miracle!!!"
I try to think of ways that I could be hurting someone with my words without me ever realizing it. I pray that I will watch my tongue, and give words of encouragement and praise to everyone that I possibly can. That is not an easy task to complete, there are many days that I should not even be around people, let alone say something nice. But I will strive to do better with this each day, because I know how some one's kind words can give me just that push I need to keep going. I also know that the Lord can help me with this in ways that I could have never imagined.
Today I feel so blessed to have the voice to answer people when they hit me with "that" question.
How do you answer "the question"?
More updates on my Kitchen project very soon!!
